No relationship is perfect, nor can function if you do not work on it. Both of the partners must do their best to save the relationship. These are 10 things that each of the partners needs to take into consideration, if they want to have a healthy relationship.
Arguing in public
You need to know that in a relationship both sides are equal. Whatever you want to say to each other, say it as an adults at home between four walls. Do not argue in public, because this generally leads to your relationship being destroyed.
Ghosts from the past
Bringing up all the negative impressions and pain from a previous relationship in the present one is strictly prohibited. Bringing up this stuff will destroy your relationship and any chance of it to work. What you need to do is start over and forget all the past relationships. Do not let your past experience define your present relationship.
Jealousy
Jealousy is not an option, especially if it is a long and serious relationship. If your partner does not give any reason for jealousy, then you must not be jealous. However, if for some reason you do not trust your partner, think carefully whether this relationship is what you really want.
Intimate relationships
When people start using their intimate relationships as a system of penalties and rewards, they are moving down a dangerous road. This will increase the chances of the other party becoming unfaithful or will eventually lead to the end of the relationship. During intimate relations each of the partners needs to express their deepest feelings. This way both sides will be happy and satisfied.
Support
Your partner must always be there for you, and you for him/her. In the most difficult times you have to be next to each other and this way you can make everything work out as you want to. Everyone feels comfortable when they have someone to rely on at all times.
Eye contact is very important
Eye contact is very important when you’re talking with someone you care about, especially if that someone is your partner. This will show the person you are talking to that you are actually listening and that you care about what that person wants to tell you. If you do not do this, people will feel like they are undesirable.
Trust
Trust is one of the key factors of each relationship. Without it, your relationship is just a facade that will soon fall apart. Before you engage in a serious relationship with any person, make sure that you can trust that person. Trust is equally important as love.
Affectation and dissatisfaction
If every day you express dissatisfaction, your relationship is doomed. Nobody likes people who are eternally dissatisfied and those who complain about everything and everyone.
Feeling in love with yourself
If at some point of the relationship you realize that your whole relationship is about one of the partners and both of you care only about the interests of that partner then this is no longer a relationship. You must remember that in each relationship both of the partners are equally important. Even when you want to do something for yourself you must always think about your partner, and vice versa.
Take a day only for you
Take a da y off and celebrate love. Of course, express your love to each other every day but select a date when everything will be about you and other day when everything will be about your partner. This will again cause a spark between you and your partner, and the partner will thus feel special and loved.